It's always a joke between Mike and I about how the kids always fight over who gets to sit next to him when we go out to eat, to the movies, etc... I've gotten used to it and try not to take it personally, but I HAVE to share 2 statements Robbie made the past week that really show where Mom ranks.
1. There's a Father-Daught Dinner at church next weekend. Ashley was SO excited when Mike gave her the invitation this week and immediately picked out a beautiful dress to wear and has mentioned it at least once a day since she found out about it. That doesn't bother me at all, I LOVE that she will get to have these memories with her Daddy. However, the next morning Robbie came up and asked me if there was only a Father-Daughter Dinner being planned and I said yes, expecting that he would follow up with a statement along the lines of wishing there was a Mother-Son Dinner. WRONG!!! Instead, he asked if they would be having the Father-Son Campout again this year? Yes, my heart sunk immediately but I'm used to it so I chuckled to myself and told Mike.
2. Today after church we went to lucnh. I noticed as I came to the table that Ashley was sitting next to Mike for a change. Robbie very sweetly looked at me and said that he let Ashley sit by Dad and again, I was expecting it to be followed up with something along the lines of him wanting to sit by me. WRONG AGAIN!!! He said it was because he always sits by Dad with no mention whatsoever of him wanting to actually sit by me. Even the dog chooses Mike over me if given a choice!
I know I shouldn't take their comments personally and honestly, no one could be happier than I am that they have such a wonderfully close relationship with their Daddy. Regardless of that, how do I shake the feeling of being totally unappreciated when everything I do is for and about them? Granted, Robbie has told me recently that Daddy tucking him in at night isn't as good as when Mommy does it, but that's probably just because I give him extra time on the tv. In reality, I know they love me just as much as they love Mike and I'm not a mother just to hear that they want to sit by me here or there. I know that when they're sick, it's me that they want. I know that Mommy hugs and kisses at bedtime are of the utmost importance in order to fall asleep. I also know that if they're sick in the middle of the night, it's me who gets woken up with a poke in the face...but that one, I would really rather share with Daddy!
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